New rule for myself, because I’ve been going crazy. Inspired by Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic: The Art of Creative Living. Criticalness can be heavy, negative, tiring, isolating. Curiosity can be light, inquisitive, loving, connecting.
In one of our hours long Stranger Magic meetings, Yumna Khan helped label the difference between someone who is insecure vs. secure.
Secure people lift each other up, acknowledge each other’s accomplishments, and take pride in each other’s wins.
Insecure people see everything as a competition – there can only be one. Their need to have the upper hand causes them to behave in a condescending manner and make the other person the problem. They project their insecurities onto others, which have the power to destroy.
People aren’t static, so we’re all capable of this spectrum of behavior. I found myself projecting some of my own insecurities on loved ones this year, only to turn inward and find the fears and pain I was projecting from.
I’ve found this label – insecure vs. secure – insightful and empowering.